McCain Boonma, 16, from West Roxbury, has a fixation. He loves his girlfriend and wishes to spend every minute with her. He says that thinking about another person constantly might seem like an obsession but it also indicates a strong sense of caring.
Boonma says that obsessions can have a good and a bad side. If just being near your obsession makes you happy, and talking to them changes your mood for the better, then it’s a positive thing. But if you get too crazy or annoying, he says, then you have to draw the line.
Some people might not like the extra attention, he says.
“Stop what you are doing and take a deep breath,” Boonma says, “then think about your actions and how they appear to that person. Turn it down to a level in which they feel comfortable.”
Miguel Medina, 16, from Mattapan, loves sports cars. He spends a good amount of his time searching for them everywhere on the street. He also goes on his phone and looks up sports cars, dreaming that one day he’ll own one.
He believes that it’s OK to want to see sports cars and thinks that being obsessed isn’t that bad because it gives you something to look forward to.
Unless, of course, you just want more and more and more.
“When your behavior is inappropriate,” he says, “then it’s time to stop.
Nardos Gosaye, a junior from the John D. O’Bryant School of Math & Science, believes that to cure an obsession, people should be shown the ugly side of the activity.
If they only have space in their brains to think of their fascinations, then it’s out of hand and help is required.
For example, says Gosaye: “When someone stalks another human being beyond the boundaries.”