Everyday people hear the low laughs of someone making fun of someone else's weight. While body-shaming can be “good” in some people's eyes, it takes a lot of confidence and self-love away from a person who is being called out every day because of how “big” they are. It affects them much worse than people think because it's terrible for their self-esteem and it also perpetuates the idea that people should be judged mainly by their outward appearance.
Fat shaming is the act of aggression, singling out, or making fun of someone who is overweight. It can occur at school, home, and even at work. Kids are more likely to get shamed than adults because when you're a kid you have this desire to fit in at all costs and sometimes that means fat-shaming and excluding others. When you're an adult you grow past that and try to not care about it anymore but even then, it will always be there in your head.
Even though some people like Bill Maher think that fat-shaming is good, it's not something to go along with. Bill Maher said that “fat-shaming doesn’t need to end, it needs to make a comeback. Some amount of shame is good. We shamed people out of smoking and into wearing seat belts. We shamed them out of littering and most of them out of racism. Shame is the first step in reform.” Is he crazy? Shaming is never okay no matter how you do it. Shaming will most likely make it worse. Everyone is different and sometimes they can't take shame. Shame is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress. I can't find anywhere that says shaming dramatically helps people. Furthermore, to address his point, I still see trash on the ground and I still see people not wearing seatbelts, and I definitely know racism is still around. So try again Bill.
In fact, science is on my side when it comes to the effectiveness of shaming. According to the National Center for Biotechnology Information, fat-shaming is linked to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, eating disorders and exercise avoidance. The evidence suggests that people internalize shame and it actually does more damage than good.
Deborah Carr, a Professor of Sociology at Boston University that studies the social, psychological, and interpersonal consequences of body weight and obesity claims those who are shamed “feel bad about themselves. They may start to question what they eat, what they wear, whether they eat in public because they might receive unkind comments from other people.”
It's not even about being big, it's about how we feel about ourselves. “Sometimes [for] people who were fat-shamed it doesn't matter how slender they become as adults, they always carry that image with them and they look in the mirror, and they are self-critical for many years. It takes a real toll on people” Carr said.
No one deserves that type of hate or humiliation but if you are overweight, then your body is going to be a target of ridicule. If you shame others because of their bodies, shame on you because you have no idea what they're going through and you just make it worse by sharing unnecessary comments. Sometimes it's your own friends that make jokes about and they say that they are kidding but it's not funny, ever. But of course, people just laugh it off and pretend it doesn't matter when really it's cutting them up inside.
Experiencing this kind of bullying can have lasting effects because kids and teens sometimes have trouble coping with the hate that they receive and they keep bottled up instead of talking to someone. They start to push themselves away from others and tend to not trust a lot of people because when you can't be yourself without someone talking about your weight or making you feel worse than you already do, it’s easier to just isolate yourself than possibly attract more hate and attention.
No one ever should feel ashamed of themselves because they are bigger. They should never feel out of place when in a store or hanging out with other people. Fat shaming is not okay and will never be okay. You need to know that you are beautiful and that you should never let someone make you feel bad about yourself because trust me you don't want to hold on to something as cruel as that.